What are the symptoms of perimenopause? What should I, as a husband expect or look for?
My wife has headaches, mood swings, loss of libido and cannot sleep very well. Will a treatment help her if it is determined that she is in this state of menopause? She is 38 years old and I have notice a considerable change in the last year. I thought it might be our relationship having issues but, nothing I do or talk about seems to ease any of her stresses. Her cycles are irregular and her flow is also heavy at times. She has complained, saying her body feels like it is on fire. Is this a hot flash? She has gained weight and sex seems to cause her some pain and bleeding. HELP please!
I put this question in this section because I wanted answers from actual experiences. I will repost in health section later.
Junkman – The bullet proof vest is a good idea. We have six kids, sometimes the bullets are already flying when I get in the room! Duck and hide. You have described exactly what I deal with, even the week after period.
I wish she could sleep better. Sleeping pills are too addictive for her. She had to stop using them. She was not taking them as prescribed.
I think everyone in the family runs for cover when the mood is bad.
I help with everthing I can so, that is not the issue. It has to be a hormon issue.
Everyone walks on Eggshells…
Docs don’t really believe in the perimenopause thing, at least I find mine doesn’t. They say it’s PMS and hormonal imbalance. Her levels of hormones could just be overloading right now, I have had the same symptoms after I hemorraged when I lost my son and it worsened after I had my son 3 yrs ago. My hormones went outtta whack and I’ve found going on birth control helps to control a lot of these symptoms but also need a herbal drug to help curb the mood swings -Black Cohash. She needs to get out, exercise and eat healthy, no junk food and get plenty of sleep, even if she has to take a nighttime sleep aid.
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This can linger on for years depending on the person. Doctors can help with the symptoms. It sucks.
While 38 seems a bit too early for perimenopause those symptoms are right on! Everyone of them!
She could also have a thyroid problem.
I would like to add what a wonderful husband you are. Your concern for your wife is very sweet
It sounds like you may be right on the money.
Estrogen may help her, if she’s able to take it.
Have her go see the doctor. It’s hard for a woman when she has a loss of libido. She sometimes stresses out more, with the thoughts that hubby may wander if she’s not in the mood for love.
maybe she can be going through some pre menopausal symptoms, b/c i know when my mom was hitting her menopausal stage she started getting hot flashes, which will lead to mood swings, and yes she had a bit of head aches, but i am unaware of the heavy bleeding, or the pain or bleeding in sex(of course), so i have no idea about that, but have her check her doctor about the symptoms, also at the drug store near the pharmacy section, you can check those little pamphlets thingy, they usually have some about menopause, you can go pick yourself up one, and/or talk to a pharmacist about it, i know they aren’t as knowledgeable as a doctor, but they are quite well informed and you can talk to him/her about that sort of thing, if you are really concerned for your wife.That’s sweet though that you are concerned for her like that.Good hubby..lol!!
Sounds like me. I am 46 now. It started when I was in my middle thirties. I cannot get a diagnosis. I have been to the Dr. they say every things fine.UGH!! No, its not. My hair also brakes off. Ha! Ha! I don’t have bald spots , I have very thick hair and I can run my fingers through it and its gross, I did find out I have cyst on my Ovaries. They gave me birth control pills for 2 months. I have not gone back, but I am still the same. I went to get my flu shot and I happened to mention that to a nurse practicing who said I needed to go see an endocrinologist. That my symptoms could be caused from the cyst. That’s my next plan. I know its my hormones.
yeah, the best is probably estrogen a really low dose, possibly the suppositories will work and they have a lot less risk. The feeling on fire all the sudden is a hot flash, you can tell especially when it is happening if her cheeks get pink or she looks flushed, if that happens let it pass before you continue a conversation they feel awful and just make you wanna say random mean or emotionally incorrect things.
Not sure how the hormones work for libido as mine flipped the opposite way.
I tried all the herbal stuff I could find but the hormone replacement was the only thing that helped mood and hotflashes and the spastic menstral cycles. I still can’t sleep worth beans, but three out of four isn’t bad.
My wife is going thru the same thing. Hot flashes, no sex drive, nerves are shot, can not sleep, some pain & bleeding during sex, espically about the 3rd week of the month. Likes me one day, wants to kill me the next day,,,be patient, know that the 1 st week after period is the best, declines after that. Keep her in a calm cool environment. Take her out to eat, limit sexual advances, then be easy, the pain & bleeding sacres women. Finally, on the 3rd & 4th week after period, wear a bullet-proof vest,,,
your in for an interesting time
Treatment might help, but first she will have to go to the doctor to check out what is wrong. It could be perimenopause, thyroid problems, etc. Remember, all of the treatment will happen over time and not at once. Be patient with her and support her; hopefully, she’ll do the same for you.